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Dear Deanna!
I’m in love with a married man and I know he’s going to leave his wife for me. He and his wife argue all the time, she nags him and they don’t go anywhere together. She tried to trap him by getting pregnant, but he still plans to leave her. She doesn’t know about me yet, but I plan to make my presence known. Will this help speed up the process and make him leave faster or should I let it play itself out?
Committed Mistress
Atlanta, GA

Dear Committed:
You’re a fool and dumber than a door nail. A small percentage of men leave their wives and a smaller percentage stay with the mistress if they do. First, you should look at the fact this man had a baby with his wife while using you like toilet paper. Secondly, you should realize if he cheats on his wife, he’ll cheat on you too. Do yourself a favor and find a single man that will respect you and not have you in a deadly situation playing fake love games.

Dear Deanna!
I’m in a relationship with a man I don’t trust. I can’t place my finger on what makes me feel this way, but I feel it in my gut. I have been observing his behavior when he’s on certain phone calls and watching him eyeball other women in my presence. This makes me feel very insecure because he seems insensitive. He doesn’t compliment me, but remarks on other women’s appearance. Am I making too much out of this, or is this man really not for me?
Janine
Buffalo, NY

Dear Janine:
You’re doomed if you don’t have trust, because this is an essential element for a healthy relationship. If this is your boyfriend and he disrespects you in your face, then obviously he’s not the man for you. However, he may need some training and you should tell him about his behavior and how it makes you feel. If he’s totally unaware of his actions then you have a shot. If he is aware, then you’re right, he’s not the man for you and keep it moving.

Dear Deanna!
My sister turned 18 years old and wants to stay at home and do nothing with her life. I’ve tried to talk to her about going to college, getting some training and getting into the workforce. All she wants to do is run after her boyfriend and hang out with her friends. She’ll see this is going to get old after a while and I don’t want her to crash and burn because of her poor life choices. Is there anything I can do to get her motivated?
Loving Sister
Inglewood, CA

Dear Sister:
Your concerns about the future of your sister are valid, but you can’t help her if she isn’t interested in helping herself. The best things you can do are lead by example and continue to encourage her and show her a different way of life. As she matures and becomes an adult she will realize the need to work, survive and carve out her life instead of partying. You can relax because she’ll come around and make better decisions as she grows up.

Dear Deanna!
How do if apologize for interfering in my best friend’s marriage? I want to apologize to her but I don’t know what to say to her without any physical confrontation. There were some things that I did and said that caused problems in her relationship. I just want to apologize and let her know that I didn’t mean to come between her and her husband. How do I apologize?
Hurting
Oklahoma City, OK

Dear Hurting:
You owe an apology to her husband, as well, because your actions affected him too. You’re an adult and know you shouldn’t do anything to jeopardize another person’s relationship. If you did something so bad that it would get physical, you should communicate with a card or a phone call. Then again, if this is your friend and you truly have her best interests at heart, you should be able to respectfully apologize face-to-face without drama and keep it moving.

Dear Deanna!
I'm 24 yrs old and my girlfriend is 30. We’ve lived together for a year but she recently said that she can’t live with anyone because she's too picky and needs her space. We’ve made long term plans for the future and I don't see those plans working if we aren't around each other. She works and I go to school full-time. Am I wrong for giving up and moving on or do I stay around and work through these issues?
Anonymous Male
On-Line Reader

Dear Anonymous:
You’re ahead of the game because you get the idea that she doesn’t want you. When someone pulls out the old “I need space” excuse, they’re simply saying “Get away so I can sort my life, be alone or see other people.” You may want to put the brakes on any joint long term plans because your relationship is going to end. You already know this and should continue to plan your life and not feel guilty about moving on.

Dear Deanna!
I’m 20 years old and recently lost my virginity. For some reason, my mom didn’t take this well. Ever since she found out, she has been on me about everything I do and she questions my actions all the time. Now she is beginning to falsely accuse me of being promiscuous. I have a full-time job, go to college and do everything to prove that I’m not what she thinks. She is making my life a living hell. What do I do?
Miserable Daughter
On-Line Reader

Dear Miserable Daughter:
It’s time you move out and get your own place. You’re no longer a child in your mother’s eyes and it’s hard for her to view you as a big girl doing big girl things. If you want to get her off your back, be an adult and become independent, handle your business and become the woman you want to be. Eventually, your mother will see that you’re making good decisions, being responsible and she’ll accept the fact you’re growing up and sex is a part of that process.

Dear Deanna!
I’m a single mom with five kids and I’ve reunited with my boyfriend of two years. I admit we've had problems on both sides but during this recent make up he expressed his love. He said that he missed us and he wants to pick up where we left off. He went to work one day and I didn’t hear from him until two weeks later. He left me a voice mail saying that his job had offered him a training position in another town and he would be back on the weekend. I didn’t hear anything for three days and decided that I love myself and I’m tired of games. What should I do about this man?
Confused
Seattle, WA

Dear Confused:
If a man loves you, he will not disappear for two weeks and not contact you. These are signs that he’s immature, selfish and not very responsible. Your relationship ended for a reason and you should move forward instead of two steps back. You have enough kids already and don’t need to add an overgrown man to the bunch. Set an example for your kids by taking care of them, loving yourself and waiting for a man that will treat you right.

Dear Deanna!
I’m in a situation where I see my best friend manipulating and using my brother. She started dating him last year and things were going well until he cheated on her. When that happened, she began taking his money, asking him for gifts and playing mind games. My brother thinks he’s making up for cheating. It bothers me when she smiles in his face and then brags to me that she’s using him. How do I tell my brother without hurting my best friend in the process?
Janelle
Ft. Bragg , NC

Dear Janelle:
Blood is thicker than water and you’re guilty like your friend if you don’t blow the whistle. You may be accused of being a snitch but you have a responsibility to watch your brother’s back. However, your brother may turn on you and you should have solid facts, a credible story and all honesty when you break the news. Your girlfriend is going to be upset, but at the end of the day, friends come and go and family is here to stay. So tell it now and keep it moving.

Dear Deanna!
My niece is an out of control teen and my sister can’t stop her. I have an issue with this because my sister gets cursed out, has money stolen from her purse and everything else. The final straw came when my niece slammed my sister into a wall. It took a few people to hold me back because I had plans to handle my niece once and for all. Now my sister has turned on me and dared me to do anything while she has a bruised face and sore arm. What do I do?
Kerry S.
Dallas, TX

Dear Kerry:
The next time your sister may not be so lucky and she needs to wake up before it’s too late. Ignore the dare and threats from your sister. She needs to stop being a punk and let someone get this child on the right path. Do what you must to intervene but let your sister know your plans and give her options to approve and assist. Be respectful to your niece and give her attention coupled with tough love and be sure to show her the benefits of doing the right things.